Why You Should Call Everyone 'Captain'?

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Why You Should Call Everyone ‘Captain’

I don’t call everybody ‘Captain’ any more. Handy Entertainment is based in Atlanta and we run into folks from all over the country on a regular basis. It is considered good manners here In the South to address people you encounter with a formal title like ‘Ma’am,’ ‘Sir,’ ‘Ms.,’ or ‘Miss.’ My dad (not from the South) used to call everyone ‘Chief.’ I know for a fact it had nothing to do with indigenous peoples.

What’s with ‘Captain’?

I started using the term ‘Captain’ to address people when a young person suggested it to me. There was a hot minute when I found myself at loss for words (hard to believe if you know me!) when I wanted to thank them.

Because the title ‘Captain’ tends to confuse people, we came up with a couple of other non-binary/gender neutral alternatives to addressing people instead of the usual ‘Sir,’ ‘Ma’am,’ ‘Miss,’ or ‘Ms.’:

Thoughtful ways to address people

Cousin
Friend
Dear One
Gentle Person
Folks
Mx. (pronounced “mix”)
My Liege
the person’s name
YOU! (this is my cousin’s fave when they forget names!)

Here’s the original post (with some edits ’cause I wanted to):

Why You Should Address Everyone by “Captain”

My favorite son asked to stop by Lost ’n’ Found Youth’s Thrift Shop, on the hunt for Guitar Hero the other day. We’d shopped and donated there before.

Finding Guitar Hero (or not)

While he scouted for Guitar Hero (no luck) but found a $12 set of subwoofers with a list price of $699, I went to the restroom. That required staff assistance. A lovely young person unlocked the restroom, and I had a sudden epiphany. I asked if there was appropriate non-gender biased terminology equivalent to ‘Ma’am’ and ‘Sir.’ They said they didn’t identify as cis-gender and appreciated the question. They also told me that their form of non-gender specific polite address was ‘Captain.’ I like that. A lot.

At a luncheon the next day…

Next day, at a business luncheon, our server was a lovely young person. I said, “Thank you, Captain!,” as they served us. To which they replied, “Ma’am?” I told them the story (without subwoofers). They told me that they were going to start calling everyone Captain. The cool part was when they said even if it just brought up the topic and provoked a conversation, it’d be worth it. They thought I should write this because it is important. My favorite son approved it, too.

Why You Should Call Everyone ‘Captain’?